Periodically, sexual activity peaks between the ages of 20 and 40, when both men and women are most active. However, it is possible to maintain a happy sexual dream outside this age range.
Reduced sexual desire, issues with men’s erections and ejaculations, and issues with women’s lubrication drying may occur as people age or in long-term relationships. Such elements may render sexual activity compulsory, repetitive, and ordinary. Couples may find it difficult to develop a close relationship, maintain their desires, accept their bodies, create fantasies, and consider their sexual preferences in this routine.
The ability to judge one’s sexual preferences, emotions, body during sex, the limits of sexual activity, forbidden and non-prohibited points, and the changes one wants to experience, as well as accepting oneself with all these factors, is known as sexual IQ. Therefore, the importance of good sex life cannot be measured.
The important points for a healthy sexual life can be listed as follows.
- Sex has nothing to do with body image. Imperfect bodies also enjoy sex and can give pleasure to their partner. Here, it is important for the parties to be honest and respectful to each other and to experience sexuality in this way.
- The positive factors that make up satisfying sex can be summarized as sexual desire during sex, the ability of the parties to evaluate their sexual rights, having the right information about sexuality, feeling enough excitement, and the attraction of cerebral concentration and mutual sensual odor to each other.
- Having fun is also part of sex. People’s sexual lives are colored by being free as they wish, fantasizing, offering their partners what they enjoy with honesty and respect, perceiving sexuality as a privileged gift, and accepting that everyone has the right to enjoy it.
- Frequency doesn’t matter. The interval between a married couple having sex is completely different from person to person. No couple should be insulted by saying that they have less range of sex. However, a periodic approach is recommended in permanent partnerships or marriages. Periodic intervals are especially important in terms of maintaining the mutual temperature. Satisfactory unions at regular intervals are also important for continuing sexual function.
- There is no room for reservations in sex. A happy sex life must talk about sex frankly and openly, not with scary reservations. Couples should be able to say what they like to each other, feel good and comfortable during sex, and not think that sex has to be a performance show or “normal“. This can only be possible by talking to each other.
- Sex does not end in families with children. It should not be forgotten that having children is not an important factor in sexuality. Couples should choose the time they will devote to sexuality according to their daily lives. During this time, they should especially concentrate on each other.
- Erectile dysfunction is not a problem you create entirely in your mind. In the last 25 years, it has become clear that a medical condition causes erectile dysfunction. While erectile dysfunction often has a psychological aspect (depression, anxiety, and stress may play a role), there is almost always a physical cause.
- Erectile dysfunction is not only seen in older men. Although this condition is more common in men over 40, it can occur in men of any age. A new study revealed that about half of men between the ages of 40 and 70 experience problems in achieving and/or maintaining an erection from time to time. Although the rate of erectile dysfunction increases with age, aging alone is not considered a cause of erectile dysfunction. The reason why erection problems are more common in older men is age-related diseases such as high blood pressure.
- You are not too old for sexual intercourse. Couples of all ages can have sex. Sex life is an important part of a healthy relationship. Indeed, many studies have shown that active sex life is a natural part of aging.
Even if the couple has lost their mutual attraction, they can regain it. The important thing is at what point they lost it. Couples lose their attraction to each other at the following points: being inadequate during sex, afraid of being abnormal, not being able to talk about sex with their partners, and not being able to express how they feel about sex in words.
Sensual harmony and mutual attraction can be regained by feeling close to your partner during or after sex, expecting excitement by touching each other, not feeling guilty about fantasies and desires, and evaluating how the male/female body works.
